The words we use matter more than we realize when it comes to growth, accountability, and success. One of the most powerful lessons you can learn comes from none other than Master Yoda:
“Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
Yoda’s wisdom is more than just a catchy movie quote. It’s a mindset that can change how you approach your goals. When you say, “I’ll try,” you’re leaving the door wide open for excuses and hesitation. What you’re really saying is, “I’m not fully committed.” And that, my friend, is where the real work begins.
Why do we say “I’ll try”?
The word try might feel like a safe choice, but it often signals uncertainty. Maybe you’re:
- Overwhelmed and worried you won’t have time.
- Trying to avoid disappointing someone else.
- Not fully invested in the outcome because it doesn’t feel important enough.
Whatever the reason, “I’ll try” is often a smokescreen for what you’re not saying—to yourself or others.
The power of owning your commitment
Here’s the truth: there is no such thing as “trying” to do something. You either choose to do it or choose not to. If you’re sitting on the fence, it’s time to dig deeper and uncover what’s holding you back.
The next time you catch yourself saying, “I’ll try,” pause and ask yourself these five powerful questions:
- What’s the hidden message in my ‘try’?
Is there fear, doubt, or a lack of motivation hiding in those words? - What do I need to admit – to myself or someone else?
Be honest about your hesitations. - What am I not acknowledging that could impact my success?
Are there external or internal barriers you’re not addressing? - What stops me from fully committing?
Pinpoint the exact source of your hesitation. - On a scale of 1 to 10, how committed am I to this action?
If your answer isn’t an enthusiastic 8 or higher, it’s worth revisiting whether this is something you truly want to pursue.
The beauty of saying “No”
Here’s the surprising twist: sometimes it’s better to say “No” than to say “I’ll try.” If your mind, heart, or energy is elsewhere, honor that truth. Saying “No” allows you to direct your focus to what truly matters, rather than spreading yourself too thin or half-heartedly chasing something that doesn’t align with your values.
People-pleasing pitfalls
If you’re prone to saying “I’ll try” because you don’t want to upset someone (your boss, partner, or even your coach), it’s a sign to dig deeper into your need for approval. Ask yourself: Am I doing this for me or for them?
When you shift from “I’ll try” to “I will” or “I won’t,” you step into a space of honesty, integrity, and self-respect. This clarity is not only a gift to yourself but also to the people you’re working with.
So, take your lesson from Yoda’s book: stop trying, start doing, and watch how much more powerful and purposeful your actions become.